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About those baby blues

Hoy comparti en mis historias…que estoy decidida a buscar un poco de ayuda con terapia.

Si, soy fuerte and I am fierce! BUT the situations I go through are quite particular, and without family around for support…can sometimes become more overwhelming…

Since I know…I am in control, and some things are in my power, I am going to seek a way to fine tune my perspective in the world and my life. I need practical advice and I need to regain the confidence that will help me and by default, my whole family, thrive.

It is late when I get to write this, but I just want to say…God has one thing for you to be doing right now…pray and be honest with yourself…if you need some help…seek it…keep praying…keep seeking…keep trying something…so that you can actually do what you are meant to be doing ❤

I will share my journey with you as I go through it. I hope it encourages those who need it most.

God bless you ! ❤

Mucho Love,

Stella

Tips de como hacer la Mejor experiencia del primer corte de cabello de tu toddler o bebé | con separata imprimible! y Video de youtube

Video de Youtube punto por punto!

Hace un par de semanas, le hicimos el corte de cabello a mi pequeño tesoro y fue una experiencia maravillosa!

el Tip de que peluquería de niños utilizar llego a mi por medio de una referencia mientras jugábamos en el parque. Seguro a ustedes les pasará igual…de repente en el day-care o nido.

Quiero que ustedes también tengan una experiencia BELLA y por eso aquí les dejo …mis mejores tips!

Waiting to have Sex Until Marriage

I am no saint…

although…as a Catholic one can only hope to get there…so this story does not come from someone who did it right or who knows how to do it “right” but from someone who lived through things, and now knows some of the things she did wrong.

If you, like me, believe in learning vicariously…then this knowledge may be helpful to you.

Age at the time you meet your match makes a difference

I met my now husband when I we were in elementary school. I was new and my dad volunteered me for a school performance in which I had to do a Peruvian folkloric dance. We rehearsed and performed a very brief dance for school…that required spinning together, forehead-to-forehead making eye contact……and would you believe…I didn’t even care to know his name—–and I forgot him and he forgot me…just as soon as the song ended

That was just who we were at 9  and 10.

but whoah….

Beware…the situation is not the same once you’re a… ominous music please– a teenager. I am assuming here, that you are dating someone about your age, because that DOES make a difference.

Once you are a teenager you cannot spend one moment apart because life is just better next to that person. Let’s be real, Teenage years aren’t easy and emotions are felt really REALLY deeply.

Now imagine how the experience of falling in love, that really trips adults and seniors alike, might be experienced for TEENS!

—- thats gonna be intense my friend. Hold your panties and hat, because thats gonna be a roller coaster.

How long your relationship has lasted is a huge factor

It is not the same to hold off from beginning to have sex…one month, two months, one year, two years, three, four, five?…ten years?

Back in the old days of the bible people didn’t live that long, and also didn’t have to wait that long for sex! what was a marrying age? 14? and even for our grandparents..that age was 18? maybe 19? …now people are advised to finish a career to be able to secure a future….and that puts you well in your 20s….

but anyway….thats a topic for another day.

If you have someone with whom you feel safe, and whom you spend some time alone…and more specifically someone whom you love, sooner or later you WILL be faced with the decision to have sex. It might creep up on you, it might happen gradually and advance almost seamlessly. Especially if you have been dating a person for a while, you will feel like you want more of that feeling they give you…the way a kiss feels on your neck, or on your shoulders…little by little that desires engulfs you, and before you know it….you are completely in the moment and in a fog.

For a few times, Alarms will go off when the moment of actually doing it, approaches, and the sheer fear of the unknown or the idea that there is something too special about it…might halt you from carrying on.

I know, it happened to me too.

Why the heck should I wait to have sex then?

Protective to you but it is also protective to your future marriage.It is protectiveTo the other person as well.It is one of those few times in which you get a chance to exercise your future husband/or wife in fidelity.

How many of us have heard of marriages in which one of the spouses chooses to use pornography rather than engaging in Sexual acts with their own spouse. Which of course, Is connected (not causal) to the idea that a spouse who gets so tired of living Without being touched (think indefinite drought) chooses to seek sexual contact outside of marriage or run to pornography too.

Saying no to the person that you are in love with. That your whole body is calling for –Is the hardest thing you will have to do when you are young and in love (or old and in love–I’m not an ageist). But it is The one of the most invaluable exercises In self denial And Triumph over Lust, Triumph over your own desires…..It is invaluable practice for the rest of your life.

If you can say no, if you can Separate yourself fromThe person that you just Want to hold for ever, I think you will have a much easier time Saying NO To Anybody else, at any other time in your life.

This is very skill, Can be protective to a marriage that goes through good times and bad times.

Technically a virgin

The demarcation of still a virgin and not a virgin Can be a little hazy because many people have different ways of defining what being a virgin is.

Does penetration make you not a virgin anymore?

Does “going through the back door” make you not a virgin anymore?

Does seeing it or touching it make you not a virgin anymore?

I think that the more you can save For your wedding night, The less you will regret, and the more you will have to celebrate. Not having done something with the person Whom you love, But also who is not yet your spouse, Has a protective effect On you and your honey at that time, But also On you and your spouse In the future

So how does that protection work?

It’s practice in saying no and practice in running away from lust.

I am not a whiz on scriptures of the bible…but I do know it says something along the lines of: RUN away from sin….don’t think you can hang out around it! RUN from temptation! Sin is waiting, prowling hungry for your destruction.

The answer is run

A Second Chance at Life. Un Segundo chance en la Vida (Lent/Cuaresma)

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Permítanme señalar, este es marzo, estamos en Cuaresma, un momento en que los cristianos recuerdan los 40 días de Jesús y nuestros antepasados ​​pasando por el desierto, un tiempo de prueba y dificultades en el que se pone a prueba nuestra fe. Qué prueba.

Momentos tan increíblemente difíciles, que podríamos cuestionar nuestra fe.

Momentos que pasan.

Imagina sobrevivir 40 días en el desierto. Conseguir una segunda oportunidad en la vida. Volver a la comodidad de la vida en el hogar y recibir nuevamente todos tus dones y la oportunidad de realizar tu potencial.

Sé que estás de acuerdo, es una oportunidad increíble … no para ser tomado a la ligera … sino para ser aprovechada.

Ahora déjame volver hacia ti y decirte.

También tuviste esa oportunidad otra vez … esta mañana cuando abriste los ojos … vivo.

¿CÓMO VIVIRÁS HOY?

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Let me point out, this is March, we are in Lent a time when Christians recall the 40 Days of Jesus and our ancestors going through the desert, a time of trial and hardship in which our Faith is tested. What a test.

Moments so incredibly trying, that we could question our Faith.

Moments that Pass.

Imagine surviving 40 days in the desert. Getting a second chance at life. Getting to go back to the comfort of home life and being given again all your gifts and the chance to realize your potential.

I know you agree –that’s an incredible opportunity…not to be taken lightly…but to be seized.

Now let me turn towards you and tell You.

You got that chance again too…this morning when you opened your eyes—-alive.

HOW WILL YOU LIVE TODAY?

 

 

De Princesa a Ama de Casa

Se que no es dificil imaginarlo… ser ama de casa es una tarea a tiempo completo…el trabajo nunca esta terminado y siempre hay algo que hacer.

Para los que no lo saben, creci absolutamente mimada, engreida y sin saber hacer nada de los labores cotidianos….no tendia mi cama… no lavaba mi ropa (ni con la maquina de lavar), no limpiaba ni organizaba mi cuarto…y la verdad mirando atras no recuerdo ni michi en que ocupaba el tiempo…pero habia una television en cada cuarto de la casa, y habia internet… asi que nunca estuve aburrida. En el fondo creo quepensaba que nada de esas cosas en realidad eran dificiles…pero oh lo equivocada que estaba… es que no solo es hacerlo…sino manejar tu tiempo y hacerlo bien, rapido… y seguido!

osea…es como cocinar por ejemplo…lo puedes hacer claro..siguiendo alguna receta…perome demoraba HORAS…en hacer algo! osea…5 horas minimo! entre buscar la receta…cortar cada cosita… buscar el viedo de youtube y verlo mil veces..y corregir lo que hacia mal—- 5 horas minimo es lo que me tomaba hacer algo aunque sea un par de veces por semana.

ASi de princesa, fue mi vida en Peru…Me mude a EEUU…eventualmente me case….y deje mi trabajo para mudarnos a la ciudad en donde mi esposo consiguio entrenamiento/trabajo. Termine estando en casa y preguntandome y ahora..? como se hace….absolutamente todo?

Lo facil era…decorar…poner velitas….hacer todo oler rico……

pero imaginense….solita…sin mi mami que me diga como hacer nada….

okay—- pasar de que te sirvan el desayuno/almuerzo y comida en donde estes….y hasta le quiten las pepas a tu sandia… a aprender como michi se hace arroz, o como se plancha…o como se usa la lejia…o cuanto tiempo dura la comida en la refri… o como se organiza un closet… cada cuanto tiempo se limpia un baño, como se corta un pollo… como saber cuando la carne ya esta cocida…. como espesar un guiso aguado…. OSEA NO SABIA NADA—-

Ahora soy mama y me encuentro mas atareada que nunca, y sin estar cerca de la famila para que nos den una manito, y en una ciudad nueva, las cosas no son tan faciles.

Pero donde hay amor, hay manera y con gran alegría puedo decir que AMOR SOBRA.

Donde hay amor hay Fe, Esperanza y Luz y se que todo sale bien para aquellos que hacen las cosas con amor.

El amor verdadero tiene un efecto protector que se extiende a lo largo de nuestras vidas. Bromeando digo que aun ahora que estoy ancestral….puedo sentir dentro de mi ese amor depositado por mi famila.

Ese amor es el que te anima cuando te dudas, que te recuerda que vales mucho cuando te hieren, que te ayuda a confiar en la vida.

Si lo recibiste de pequeno recibiste una gran bendicion. Si lo pudiste presenciar al convertirte en madre, pues tambien! Si aun no lo haz experimentado, buscalo, dalo. Esta en ti…porque Dios te amo primero.

Si estas en epoca de lucha, te doy animo amig@ mi@…. y te recuerdo que el amor lleva a más amor, que hay gente buena alla afuera, que tu alegria esta a la vuelta de la esquina… y que mantengas tu corazon tierno…eres valioso, y lo puedes todo con y por amor.

El Examen de San Ignacio de Loyola

Con el examen, podemos revisitar nuestras anecdotas, sentimientos y eventos del pasado reciente. Podemos a corto plazo, ser mas intencionales con nuestras acciones y decisiones, y a largo plazo podemos mantenernos firmes en nuestros propósitos, a pesar que nuestra fuerza espiritual esté un tanto languida.

Uno de los varios beneficios del Examen es su potencial influencia en el proceso de discernimiento. La ventaja es que puedes mirar a tu situacion presente con aumentada introspectiva, puedes mirar atras con mayor objetividad y decidir con mayor firmeza entre diferentes decisiones. Todos sabemos decidir entre una opcion buena y una mala, el problema surge cuando tenemos que decidir entre dos aparentes buenas decisiones.

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